We care about other folks's viewpoints ... a lot. Whether we like to admit it or not, they affect our every day decisions from accepting a brand-new friend into our social circle to buying that book off of Amazon. It's the force of social proof at play.
Social confirmation is the concept that we are affected by what other individuals view as valuable. If a great deal of people believe something's incredible, then you're most likely to see it as awesome, too. Vice-versa, if everybody dislikes something, you're more likely to see it in an unfavorable light.
Say a guy's at a party, surrounded by buddies with a huge smile and a lot of laughter. Even if you don't know him, the attention he's getting makes you want to learn more about him too. Brand-new folks are going to be a lot more responsive to him than to some random guy that no one knows.
The worst thing you can do throughout a social gathering is stand off to the side quietly. Even if you're waiting on a buddy or relaxing, when you separate yourself folks assume you're worried and out of place. Ladies are very likely to label you as the "creepy guy" or just have no interest in meeting you.
Whether you're in a bar or at a celebration, always come in and strike up a discussion with folks nearby, right away. There's no intention behind this, simply talk with people to have authentic discussion and learn more about them. It doesn't need to be anything extreme. Just keep it casual, short, and friendly.
Go around and mingle. Speak with a few different groups, males and females, and enjoy yourself. Not only does this warm you up for when you approach a woman you're interested in, you'll also meet some new folks. And the attractive guy is constantly surrounded by good company.
From the outside, a woman observes how social you are and how others appreciate your company. If folks are laughing with you and you're talking up a group of ladies, you appear to be a good time. A woman uses other women's approval of you as a screening method. When those women gladly welcome you, in her mind she sees that you need to be a person with real value.
She's wonders, "Why is he so fascinating? Who is he? I have to meet him and see what he's all about."
Now, when you go to approach her, you've already made an excellent first impression. By leading in strong, she'll be more ready to let her guard down and connect with you. With enough social verification, girls will be attracted to you before you even say hello-- it's that effective.
Most of all, do not walk into a space like a predator stalking it's prey. Be a social magnet and care about what others have to say. The women around you will take notice of your mass appeal and instantly be drawn to you, too.
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