Dating is supposed to be fun, right? And it usually is, except...when you don’t seem to be meeting the kind of people you’re looking for online. You’ve written a great profile, you’ve added some fantastic photos, but nothing seems to be happening. So now what? Don’t panic, because we can help.
In this article I’m going to cover 5 things you might be doing that are sabotaging your otherwise successful online dating experience. Some of these are common sense, and others are not as obvious. However, any one of these could be a big turn off for an otherwise prospective love interest.
1) Bad Spelling or Grammar
it’s OK to use the sideways smiley face, but it’s not OK to have your messages, (or your entire profile) littered with typos. Remember that this person doesn’t know you. So sending them a message with half the words spelled incorrectly and the grammar of a 4 year old isn’t going to cut it. They may think you’re uneducated, lazy or just don’t know any better. Either way, it’s probably not the kind of impression you want to make. Just remember to spell check things before you send them.
2) Rude or Offensive Language
We’re not telling you how to live your life. But when you talk to someone online. They don’t really know anything about you. You don’t have any idea what they may or may not be offended by. So it’s better to be on the side of caution. Plus, many people consider swearing to be a fairly uneducated way of speaking.
3) You're Trying Too Hard
Sure you might come across someone’s profile that you’re really excited about. But nothing is more unattractive (especially to women) than neediness, insecurity and awkwardness. So just play it cool and send them a short, friendly message. You don’t need to write a novel in each email. Try to keep it light and sort of flirty. Also, don’t freak out if the person doesn’t write you back right away (or at all). Maybe they’re busy or actually have other things they need to do besides online dating. So give it a few days and if after a week you still don’t hear back. Maybe send them a second friendly message to say hi. At that point if you don’t hear back, then I’d suggest you just let it go. There are plenty of other people out there, so just move on.
4) Don’t Lie About Your Age, Height, Weight
You want the person to like you for who you are. Not an imaginary version of you that you concocted in photoshop. Don’t use photos that are 5 years old, or 40 pounds ago. If you actually do meet, the person will find out and may resent you for lying. Also, don’t say you’re a college professor, or rocket scientist if you’re not. Just be who you are and try to make a great impression with that. Try to present the best version of you that you can be. Cause being yourself is better than being someone you're not. Especially in the world of online dating.
5) Keep It Fun and Positive
Even if everything in your life isn’t fantastic, still try to keep your profile positive. If you just rant and complain, (or even just have a generally negative tone to everything), it won’t be very attractive to people. Think of your profile as an online ad, and you are the product. You have to make people thing your cool and interesting so they’ll want to get to know you. No one wants to board a sinking ship. Try to keep a friendly, positive and up-beat tone to your profile, and you’ll have much more success.
So yeah, that's basically it, there's a lot of other things you can do to make your online experience better, such as....
Take a good profile picture of you smiling. You are amazing and beautiful, so express yourself.
Add content to your profile. Let people know you're serious
When sending flirts (first messages) to people. Look at their profile, and ask them about something in it. Don't just write "hi" to 40 people.
Use periods and commas correctly in your about text.
And so much more... but you get the idea.