How To Have Amazing Sex With Her From The Start

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You’ve got a date coming up. You’re anxious about taking things to the next level and having sex with her for the first time. Here's some raw advice for you to roll with. Take it or leave it, it's the harsh truth.

You’ve got a date coming up. You’re anxious about taking things to the next level and having sex with her for the first time. Well, let’s get it out in the open… The first time you have sex with a new woman is always going to suck. But it will suck relatively. It will suck



Youve got a date coming up. Youre anxious about taking things to the next level and having sex with her for the first time.

Well, lets get it out in the open

The first time you have sex with a new woman is always going to suck.

But it will suck relatively. It will suck compared to the sex youll have together as you continue to get comfortable with each other.

This is completely normal.

The first time is inevitably filled with anxiety and awkwardness. Its hard to be fully present in the moment and you dont yet know all the little things that turn each other on.

Once you have sex a handful of times, however, you both will become more more in tune with pleasing one another and sharing how you feel. This increase in comfort paves the way for a dramatic increase in arousal.

Women know this process takes time! They arent expecting you to be a total sex god right out of the gate.

Yet so many men put a TON of pressure on themselves to provide women with legendary sex from the start. This alone is what causes them so much stress and performance anxiety.

And whats the end result? Men struggle to rise to the occasion or enjoy themselves, which leads to the exact disappointing experience they were so terrified of having in the first place.

So I want to show you how to create the best possible first sexual experience for everyone. And that starts by doing the opposite of what you think you should do.


Anxiety is an unnecessary mood killer


You often experience anxiety when youre thinking about all the what ifs in your future. You can feel it when youre obsessing about doing something perfectly and trying to plan for all the possible outcomes.

Sexual anxiety is no different. Especially when youre about to get intimate with a new partner, your mind goes wild with all the stress-inducing permutations of what could happen next.

You think about all the things you have to do just right: get rock hard, last a long time, and hit her in all the right spots. But sometimes, youre so preoccupied with being perfect that you lose your arousal and sabotage the entire experience. Its almost impossible to be turned on while youre anxious.

Ironically, all those things that youre obsessed with doing just right are what women care about the LEAST!

Women get really turned on from seeing YOU aroused and impassioned for them.

Its not your perfect positioning. Not your stamina. Not finding their exact ideal spot to touch. Not even the size of your member.

Because youre not the only one whos anxious about the whole ordeal. Shes worried about whether or not youre enjoying yourself, while youre thinking the same thing about her.

So youve just got to show her that you are enjoying yourself immensely. You dont need to be perfect.

Once you do this, a woman can relax and fully immerse herself in her own sexual energy. And voil! Thats an amazing and memorable first experience together.

It may sound counterintuitive, but to conquer sexual anxiety you have to start focusing on YOUR enjoyment and not just hers.

Here are three techniques to do just that.
Sex is a journey, not a destination


Yet so many men focus on getting straight to the objective. They think of the process as a series of steps they have to execute flawlessly

Ive got to undress her but not mess up on the bra. Ive got to make sure shes really wet. I cant do anything weird to turn her off. Ive got to fuck her faster and harder and make her come.

Guys get so stuck on what theyre supposed to do next that they often end up rushing through the whole thing.

Women want you to just slow down.

The physical act of sex is only one small part of the experience. The rising tension, the way things unfold, the words you exchange, and the sensations you explore together are crucial to sexual intimacy. And doing all that imperfectly and figuring out how to dance together, so to speak, is part of the fun.

Emotional and physical foreplay is incredibly hot for women.

Most guys blast through those steps in minutes to get into fast, hard penetrative sex. They think thats the alpha move. And its largely because thats what feels most pleasurable to them.

But most women want at least 10-15 minutes of foreplay, if not more, leading up to the act of sex. That progression is often more memorable than anything else.

Sex also doesnt have to end in climax for most women, and many times it wont. Studies show that at least 30-50% of the time, women dont orgasm through penetrative sex. And even when they do, it doesnt necessarily happen every time. This is especially true if its their first sexual encounter with a new partner.

So takeyourtime. Dont stress about rushing to the next order of business. Take a casual stroll through intimacy and delight in the time you have to touch, tease, and taste each other.

This will keep you present and give you more time to explore the next technique: getting yourself going.
Focus on turning yourself on first


A woman loves seeing a guy overcome with arousal for her. So you need to get yourself to feel like youre exploding with sexual energy.

Right now, think about what turns you on. Consider your most incredible sexual experiences.

Do you love the mystery that comes with seeing a woman slowly undress? Do you love rubbing your hands down her smooth legs?

Do you enjoy lots of kissing? Or kissing her all over her body? Having her kiss yours?

Does the smell of a womans hair drive you crazy? Or feeling her run her hands over your pants? Or seeing her bend over to tease you?

Do you love it when you hear her moan with pleasure? When she tells you how much she wants you, is it the sexiest thing youve ever heard?

Reflect on what drives you wild with desire. Then once youre in the moment with a woman, be mindful and connect to a few of these ideas. Allow yourself to really indulge and explore the things that turn you on the most.

Give yourself permission to get turned on like never before. If you want her to get involved, you can guide her hands gently or tell her what you want, like Take off those cute little pantiesslowly.

This may sound selfish, but you feeling truly aroused is essential to great sex. If youre having trouble staying hard or staying present, many women will automatically blame themselves and think its because theyre not attractive enough.

But once a woman sees just how much fun youre having, she can let go of her worries and feel so fucking good that youre this turned on with her.
Show your desire instead of gauging hers


I know you want to make sure a woman is enjoying herself.

But constantly checking in with her or second-guessing your skills disconnects you from your own emotions of arousal. It takes you out of your body and into your scumbag brain.

On top of that, constantly asking, do you like that? is this good for you? did you come? puts a tremendous amount of pressure on women. They feel like they have to verbally confirm their arousal instead of just feeling it. They can also get self-conscious about how youre perceiving them and whether or not theyre acting sexy.

But if youve been taking your time and getting yourself turned on, shes ready to feel your intense desire. Trust that this is EXACTLY what she wants to feel from you.

Run your hands all over her body. Caress and kiss her skin. Grab her body and pull her close into you as you embrace.

Use your voice. Moan, breathe heavily, and express pleasure as you move in and out of her. Tell her how fucking sexy she is. Let her know that you want her more than anything in the world.

Look her up and down like you want to devour her. Then make deep eye contact while your bodies connect deeper. Show her that you are overwhelmed with passion and want to touch her all over.

Theres nothing like being found irresistible by someone we ourselves find attractive. Share your sexual desire. Then shell enjoy herself more than you could ever imagine.



These ideas will get you out of your anxious mind and into your excited body.

You dont need perfect technique. You dont need to make a girl come right away. You dont need to do everything smoothly.

All this over-complication is what makes for poor bedroom experiences for everyone.

Because you already CAN provide women with amazing sexual experiences. You just have to let go of the expectations you put on yourself and learn to enjoy the ride.

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These articles are created as a way to educate our members with tips and tricks of finding love in this day and age. It's a very different landscape out there than it was even 10 years ago. Everything is different with COVID and people are struggling. We want to help you find your person at "The Flock". That's the whole point. But to do that, education is important. Love and respect, Todd Staples. Founder of "The Flock"

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